Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy

(EFT)

EFT has been proven to be the most effective form of couples therapy to date, with positive effects for couples that last long after treatment is ended. “Ninety percent (90%) of couples who go through EFT significantly improve their relationship and 70-75% of couples no longer fit criteria for relationship distress following treatment... Compare this to a 35% success rate for the next leading couples therapy.” (**CITE***) EFT focused on creating and strengthening the attachment bond between partners by identifying and transforming the key moments that foster loving adult relationship: being open, attuned, and responsive to each other. (CiTE book***)

EFT is NOT for Couples who are in abusive or violent relationships, have serious addictions, or are actively in long-term affairs because these activities hinder the ability to positively engage with partners.


How does EFT work?

  1. First, we’ll use an awareness of conflict issues and how they represent core relationship disconnects to identify patterns of negative interactions.
  2. Then, we’ll identify unexpressed needs and promote acceptance and healthy expression of those needs to create true emotional engagement.
  3. Finally, we’ll facilitate the application of new solutions to old relationship problems, solidifying new patterns of emotional connection and closeness in relationship.
A man with his back turned hugging a woman in the woods.
  • Learn to speak the language of attachment so you can ask and answer the most vital question: are you there for me?
  • Transcend the tattletale “he said she said” and get to the root of yours and your partner’s emotional needs.
  • Go from a “me versus you” to an “us versus the problem” mindset by breaking cycles of distancing and pursuing and satisfying emotional needs in favor of meaningful connection.